I can definitely relate. And always up for a brainstorming session...I find I'm a little OCD about optimizing the stupid stuff so I can do the stuff I care about. I like new ideas on how to do that!
I feel like dropping is a better solution than optimizing. Everything is always about how efficient you can be at stuff, but ultimately, there is only so much you can fit in. So rather than just optimizing it, can I pass it off?
No luck with that, so far :)
Well, often comes at a cost to drop, right? We have had a cleaning team since we got married. No cable for years. And live-in child care with an au pair to give flexibility and eliminate the "prep kids and transport to child care" that once ate up an hour a day.
But things I care about and can't stop something to make space: running long and running often is either part of my commute or part of lunch. Non-O weekends are kid time, so it has to happen during the week. And food - cooking is a must, so that's during homework time. CSA pickup is on my way home on the only day I drive. And kitchen is organized to accomplish tasks quickly so I can cook breakfast and prep my week's lunch on Monday morning, my rest day.
I's probably a mix. And then you protect your downtime fiendishly!