i agree, it's such a good question: what will do less harm? Is the diagnostic process or the treatment appropriately matched to the malady...is the intervention more likely to bring down the house of cards than just letting it teeter totter its delicate way through the wind.
Best of luck with these type of issues and decisions.
Thanks guys - much harder when it's so close and personal.
Also tough with the great distance as we have found with Lyn's aging relatives. Best wishes to you and family.
George thanks. A reminder of the tyranny of distance, even though the world has shrunk.