Discussion: Removing from the roads

Alas, that duty often defers to the children of the failing drivers, and it is often a fight. An issue right now in our family, as Rhonda's parents' best driving days are well behind them, but her stepfather clings to the wheel, contrary to the advice of the next generation.

And she's too softhearted to confiscate the keys?

May be time for a change in residence. I can vouch for the many pleasures of city living where you don't need to drive. When I moved from the distant suburbs into Chicago years ago, I felt like I'd died and gone to Heaven....so much to do, so many interesting people to do it with!

Economy, environment and safety are only a few of many reasons to give up a car. Sitting on a bus, reading the paper or watching the scenery, and letting the driver deal with traffic, is a real luxury too few Americans appreciate. Too bad. Best of luck to Rhonda; hope she keeps it up and doesn't get discouraged.

A change of whose residence? Rhonda is certainly not headed down to TX to take up residence, as far as I know. She moved away from there on purpose.

Never had an elderly parent of your own? One may think one knows what's best for one's elderly relatives, but try to interfere with their sense of independence or their ability to make their own decisions and be prepared for some real pitched battles.

Last time she was down there, Rhonda tried to introduce them to Uber, but by the time the driver was a block away, her dad decided he just wasn't going to go, and Rhonda had to cancel it. People can get set in their ways.

I can see that son of mine plotting already for what activities he is going to restrict me from.

In Illinois we have to take a driving test if we're over 75, along with vision and written tests. News to me. I'll have to get that done in the next couple of weeks before my license expires.

But as I was browsing, I ran across these suggestions for children who think their parents are no longer capable of driving safely. You and Rhonda may wish to consider a couple of these ideas.

Well, Rhonda's brother is a responsible adult and he is monitoring the situation. It certainly can't go on indefinitely. Hard for us to be very influential from 2000 miles away. It is a difficult situation. Good luck with your driving test!