I long ago turned into one of those people!
When I expressed the opinion to the haematologist I work with, that these things are fairly random, he said "No they're not, it's Poisson distribution!" and proceeded to lecture me: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Poisson_distribution
jennycass - aahhh Poisson's distribution.. now that takes me back and checking through the wiki reference I got the tingles from Maths lecture days. Particularly took to the example/application to graininess of enlarged pics.
And you would know that seeming randomness never seems random when it applies to "you".
I think I need to learn, for my own emotional balance, not to empathise quite so much with other people's situations.
Try being the cause of other people's consternation...
You mean like how consterned* the dog gets when he thinks I'm going to walk out the door in the morning and go to work without yet having fed him?
*this isn't a proper word, but it should be.
More like the kind of consterned* a person gets when after 60 years of marriage, they find out their partner is an "adult worker" and they owe them an extortionate amount of money.
*should totes be a real word.
*tries and fails to imagine her spouse as a hired gigolo*
TT and jenny - just started raining here and place is really dark. Thanks for the bright light and laughter. And *consterned - absolutely word of the year.
I couldn't advise giving up on empathy - there is lots of good literature about and protective factors (to protect from) vicarious trauma. But I'm probably telling you how to suck eggs!
I like 'consterned' too.