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Apr 13, 2020 6:02 PM # 
Pink Socks:
So, uh, how's everyone doing with this?
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Apr 14, 2020 3:11 PM # 
cwalker:
Not great, although parenting is a lot easier now that I don't have a job (got furloughed 10 days ago). But still not easy, keeping up with a two year old all day is non-stop, as you obviously know. I'm also pregnant, with all the fatigue and extra anxiety that comes with it. Pretty worried about about what the world will look like when I'm due in August and how much we'll have to do without family help. At least James is mostly having a great time and has no appearance of being anxious about the world. I also feel like my stress levels have calmed down a bit because I just wore myself out.
Apr 16, 2020 5:19 PM # 
Pink Socks:
I'm having mixed emotions! Yay for pregnancy! But boo to the uncertainty, etc!

Last month, we decided to back out our last embryo transfer just days before it was scheduled. Despite an almost-full cycle of meds, it was hard to justify going through with it: we'd be adding unnecessary work to the health care system, we'd be risking exposure to appointments in a hospital downtown, plus the uncertainty of what the world will look like in the next year.

Making the final decision wasn't without sadness, but it was a relief. For your sake, I hope this stuff settles down before August!

Fjola is pretty oblivious, largely due to the fact that a lot of her "normal" hasn't changed. I'm still at home 7 days a week. Gina was already working from home 3 days a week, so that didn't change much.

Co-op pre-school (2 hours a week) is closed, but we still Zoom chat. The playground structures are all closed, but we can still go for walks outside. Sometimes she'll ask about going to the school, or the zoo, or to the grocery store, but she doesn't get upset about it. I picked up an online grocery order on Tuesday, and while I was gone, Fjola played "grocery store" at home, imagining a checkout line.

We're also using all of this time at home to potty train. We're 2.5 weeks in, and the potty training is pretty much there. But some knock-on effects have been a struggle. She wakes up about 90 minutes earlier in the morning because she needs to go. And we converted her crib into a bed so that she can get up and use the potty, but that means that her in-crib "quiet time" (she hasn't napped regularly since November) isn't so "quiet", since she has access to all of the stuff in her room.

In other words, she's not getting enough sleep, so she's the crankiest she's ever been in the hours before bedtime and sometimes even in the hour after waking up. We're hoping that this is just a phase, and that she'll sleep better as her confidence with potty training continues.
Apr 18, 2020 3:09 AM # 
Suzanne:
I’m tired.
Apr 21, 2020 2:38 PM # 
Suzanne:
Pink socks...does that mean you still have the egg for later...or was it a last decision? That sounds really hard. I’m so sorry, but glad it feels like a relief now.
Apr 21, 2020 5:08 PM # 
Pink Socks:
We still have the embryo on ice for later. It's our last one (of ten total), and we'll transfer it eventually. We've decided that we won't retrieve any more eggs after this, so this is the last one, successful or not. Personally, I'm looking forward to the certainty: either it'll work (yay!), or it won't (boo!). But either way, we'll know that we're done with this roller coaster.

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