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Discussion: visas

in: Becks; Becks > 2020-04-22

Apr 23, 2020 6:03 AM # 
You're on a cap-exempt H-1B, Rob's on an O-1 visa, and your little guy is a citizen, right? Would work give you flexibility if there were a way?
Apr 23, 2020 5:49 PM # 
Rob is also cap-exempt H1B now. I think I could go to 80% without it causing any issues, but more than that and I'd have to submit an amendment...and don't want to do that right now. Although our lawyers just clarified that the new ban only extends to entering the country, and not to submitting applications (which are slowed with COVID anyway), which is something.
Apr 23, 2020 8:29 PM # 
That sounds really hard, Becky. I'm sorry :( Would you actually work less with 80% or would you just get paid less but still spend all the possible time working? An extra 1.5 hours per day not working sounds like it would help if it's possible. The four weeks we had to work with no childcare almost destroyed me and you're looking at way longer than that; it was actually kind of a relief to get furloughed.
Apr 24, 2020 12:22 AM # 
Have you both taken your full entitlement to FMLA?

With the caveats that I'm not a lawyer,and my ideas are worth everything that you've paid for them...

You have a young'un, and my understanding is that entitles you both to rights to unpaid leave under FMLA (total of 12 weeks unpaid leave in the little guy's first year in the world), even though you're on H-1B visas. Here's the first search result I found...

...which links to what looks like a Department of Labor factsheet stating that "employers [of H-1B visa holders] remain obligated to comply with the Family and Medical Leave Act."

There are an array of caveats so it's worth doing your homework and checking the paperwork requirements. (e.g. I'm not automatically eligible for FMLA because the employer needs to have at least fifty local employees and we only have two in the USA).
Apr 24, 2020 4:43 AM # 
That sucks :(
Apr 24, 2020 12:45 PM # 
We've both taken all our FMLA, yup.

The 80% would mean I still work where I can but I feel less guilty about spending public money not doing enough. Which is something for my mental state!
Apr 24, 2020 3:39 PM # 
I'm out of ideas. Other than suggesting that - in this crazy world - maybe you could cut yourself some slack, work less, and just not bother feeling guilty about it?
Apr 24, 2020 4:00 PM # 
I'm trying, I'm really trying! But that was the conclusion I came to aswell, unfortunately.
Apr 24, 2020 4:54 PM # 
When do your green cards come? Some undefined time in the next decade, probably?
Apr 24, 2020 4:54 PM # 
Yeah, ditto what sgb said. I think it's a hard thing for a lot of people, we feel like we're slacking off or taking advantage of our employers, or just not good workers. But this is not normal and we're not going to be as productive and we can't feel guilty about it.
Apr 24, 2020 5:03 PM # 
Definitely with sgb and Cristina on this. Accept the situation as it is, and know that you aren't going to be as efficient as you could be but that is just how it is going to be. I'm sure you are doing an awesome job on what you are doing, and you are getting to spend much more time with the little guy than you would have in normal circumstances.
Apr 24, 2020 5:24 PM # 
Also, think about how much public money is going to big companies and Trump businesses. I'm sure the public is getting much more benefit from your work!
Apr 26, 2020 8:18 PM # 
That sucks.

As other's have said, I think the best parents of young kids/babies who are also full-time workers can do is to figure out what is possible... and accept that. (easier said than done - we are struggling too, and don't have to worry about visas).

And, for thinking work... sometimes more hours doesn't mean better work, or fewer hours mean worse work.

I do wish the shelter-in-place rules explicitly allowed for pod-formation. IE - two families with 4 working parents + 2 kids to combine into a single unit. That seems like it would mean a lot more sanity... with little increase in overall societal risk.
Apr 26, 2020 8:35 PM # 
I wonder if it makes sense to pick a metric that indicates very little community spread and form a pod at that point - assuming that even happens in the next 2 months. Perhaps number of hospitalizations in the state, with a very low cutoff - 20? Right now MA still has almost 4000 and it's not yet going down, so still a ways to go.
Apr 28, 2020 12:32 PM # 
"I do wish the shelter-in-place rules explicitly allowed for pod-formation. IE - two families with 4 working parents + 2 kids to combine into a single unit. That seems like it would mean a lot more sanity... with little increase in overall societal risk."


Having larger isolated units makes sense, though it's *harder to isolate a larger unit* (maybe jut have one person shopping for the group, etc). One can pretend that once one person in a unit gets infected, everyone does. Then you only model the reproduction rate for units. The size of the unit does not actually matter (modulo the difficulty isolating large units).

Increasing the unit (bubble in NZ speak) would lead to a once-off increase in the number of cases, but that's as bad as it gets.

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